a realization...
Jun. 27th, 2005 04:11 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
I'm wrestling with lots of impending-loss and grief issues in the background this week... seeing both my grandmother and my father here. I love them both, but seeing their slow progression from what they used to be is... hard. And not knowing if I'll be back here or in Kansas in a few months for a funeral. And seeing how hard this is on their local support (my aunts/my mother, here).
Add to that the natural stress of driving hard across the country with 3 kids... and I'm struggling for balance, emotionally, even though nothing is overtly wrong otherwise. And leaving here tomorrow to return to California will be hard, if a relief in other ways. Except back at home, I feel like I have no net, no surrounding relatives as allies... a bit of a scary prospect, dealing with these family and grief issues back there. Sigh.
Anyway, work went OK, and my project leaves for the Arctic in 19 days.
Add to that the natural stress of driving hard across the country with 3 kids... and I'm struggling for balance, emotionally, even though nothing is overtly wrong otherwise. And leaving here tomorrow to return to California will be hard, if a relief in other ways. Except back at home, I feel like I have no net, no surrounding relatives as allies... a bit of a scary prospect, dealing with these family and grief issues back there. Sigh.
Anyway, work went OK, and my project leaves for the Arctic in 19 days.
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Date: 2005-06-27 08:26 pm (UTC)I know I will see you for your b-day party, but is there another time for us to get together after we return (7/8) and before you leave?
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Date: 2005-06-27 08:36 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-06-27 08:31 pm (UTC)It is hard.
I don't know why, but my grief over my grandmother's death last September has been looming larger for me lately. And it seems like you've got a *bunch* of things going on that might be making you feel a bit more adrift/less anchored.
and to echo what Dawn said, above, I know that
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Date: 2005-06-27 08:39 pm (UTC)I guess I have to ask for some slack, over the past couple of weeks, as the combination of the past month and then this trip have hit me harder than I anticipated. :-|
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Date: 2005-06-27 08:43 pm (UTC)but a very happy anniversary to you and
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Date: 2005-06-28 01:35 am (UTC)meow!
Date: 2005-06-28 01:41 am (UTC)Re: meow!
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Date: 2005-06-28 09:36 am (UTC)Sucks, eh.
{{{hugs}}} if wanted.
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Date: 2005-06-28 10:00 am (UTC)I feel like I have no net, no surrounding relatives as allies
What a sad thing to feel. I know that one. The only family I have in NYC is second cousins twice removed whom I rarely see, so I depend on "chosen family."
Can you ask your wife and friends to help you through this?
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Date: 2005-06-28 01:17 pm (UTC)I don't know how to ask for help with something like this, and would be worried about burdening my friends near home with my problems.
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Date: 2005-06-28 01:26 pm (UTC)That being said, I have gone for professional counselling several times when I was dealing with illness in the family, because even though I spoke to my friends about it, I felt like I needed a different kind of listening.
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Date: 2005-06-30 12:57 am (UTC)Holding you in love.
Date: 2005-06-28 08:22 pm (UTC)Re: Holding you in love.
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Date: 2005-06-28 11:04 pm (UTC)Or any of the at-least-three sweeties who have lost a parent.
I know that I feel appreciated and valued when someone wants my help with a problem.
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Date: 2005-06-30 05:42 pm (UTC)*hug*
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