My schedule with Julie was to meet her at 6:30pm. I arrived at 7pm, then waited for her to return from a walk, then called you after I couldn't remember the code. So I saw myself as a half-hour late.
You had said that you'd be gone by 6:30pm, headed to San Leandro. I then said that I planned to try to leave work early, and could possibly get there by 6-6:15pm in time to give you a hug in passing. That did not happen, but I did not see it as a scheduled event (more of a target of opportunity). And I was not able to leave work early.
What I have learned is to not mention possible brief interactions with you unless I'm *really* sure they *will* happen, and not subject to work or traffic. Generally, work issues will trump relationship issues for me.
And if I'm not really sure when I will be arriving somewhere that you will be, even a third-party social event, I have learned that I need to give as vague an answer as I can, avoiding any ETAs unless I'm really sure I can be there *before* that time. Otherwise, if I give my ETA at some party as 9 and am actually there at 9:30, I'm in trouble even if it isn't your party.
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Date: 2005-07-10 07:53 am (UTC)You had said that you'd be gone by 6:30pm, headed to San Leandro. I then said that I planned to try to leave work early, and could possibly get there by 6-6:15pm in time to give you a hug in passing. That did not happen, but I did not see it as a scheduled event (more of a target of opportunity). And I was not able to leave work early.
What I have learned is to not mention possible brief interactions with you unless I'm *really* sure they *will* happen, and not subject to work or traffic. Generally, work issues will trump relationship issues for me.
And if I'm not really sure when I will be arriving somewhere that you will be, even a third-party social event, I have learned that I need to give as vague an answer as I can, avoiding any ETAs unless I'm really sure I can be there *before* that time. Otherwise, if I give my ETA at some party as 9 and am actually there at 9:30, I'm in trouble even if it isn't your party.