sigh...

[jay]

Pat fell down yesterday while leaning on a laundry cart, bruised her *other* leg, and now can barely walk at all. Sigh. Today... I need to put away the 8 loads of laundry from yesterday, get James a bike and helmet, clean the living room and bathrooms, clean out my bedroom and put my winter clothes in storage, feed Pat and the kids, take James to and from church several times (he's playing drums at all three services today), and repair David's dresser drawer.

And patgreene is annoyed with me because I injured my right shoulder three weeks ago on Devon Island when trying to lift ATVs out of the mud, can only hold things in certain positions without shooting pain, and haven't bothered to tell her (or anyone else) in the meantime. I figured that she had enough problems on her own, with her knee... IMO she should be glad that I'm functional-enough to cover, instead.

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[deedeebythebay.livejournal.com]

Time for chores for the kids. And I'm sure she is glad that you're functional but I'd be annoyed and worried over coyote3502 if he'd been injured and hadn't told me.....because I love him enough to care, as I know patgreene loves you.

I'm sorry she fell again.....you two seem to be having some rough times lately. I'll keep praying and hoping things get easier for you soon.

[juliansinger.livejournal.com]

Yeah, um, I can see why she'd be annoyed too.

Actually, I think your being so cavalier about it is, in fact, quite irresponsible.

[juliansinger.livejournal.com]

Mind you, I want to add, many many hours later, that I don't know what life's been like for you lately, I know you're under stress, and it's really not my business.

Sorry for being overly blunt without full access to facts.

[datagoddess.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I think it's time to enlist the kids into some chores.

And, well, yeah, I'd be upset too, if Dan would have kept an injury from me like that. And it's good that your funtional, but she still needed to know that you've been hurt, so that she can be concerned for you the way you've been concerned for her. 2-way street, you know? Hell, even with Dan having to take care of me since I have pneumonia I've been conscious of his bronchitis so that I don't over tax him.

Have you had your shoulder looked at by a doctor?

[dangerpudding.livejournal.com]

y'know, I'm with patgreene on this one - you're in pain, we're going to Spain, and you haven't told anyone or seen a doctor? Dude!

It's that whole thing where someone has to care for themselves for the rest of us to trust them to care for us. Y'know?

*sigh* *hug*

[dangerpudding.livejournal.com]

Hey! And you were lifting boxes for me last week! *growl*

YES!

[who-is-she.livejournal.com]

You should get the shoulder checked out, or at least be telling HER about it... so she can help you ice it.. or something.
:)

I agree with you, Sarahh, about trusting those we care about to care for themselves. it's a hard thing to maintain when one is overwhelmed, but doing it is a gift to those we love.

[cyan-blue.livejournal.com]

*Hugs* to both of you, and might seeing a doctor help that arm?

And I agree with the others - sharing info with your wife is a good thing - even if she can't help, she might be able to offer sympathy and ask fewer things of you.

And in marriages, people just plain tell one another about the important things.

a new lj acquaintance putting her two cents in..

[iluvdaphne.livejournal.com]

what the lady above cyan blue said :) plus the most important thing of it..
"And in marriages, people just plain tell one another about the important things.

and all of the other folks have some very good advice also :)

IMHO get to a doctor, feel better and enlist those kids in some chores for gosh sakes..mom's can't do everything for them all the time..from one who knows by experience, I spoiled/waited on hand and foot, my kids too, cause I just loved taking care of them and it just ended up hurting them in the long run.

and I hope your wife feels better too, from one whom is in pain lately on a daily basis and cannot get a grip (nsaid new meds not working) on it.

Re: a new lj acquaintance putting her two cents in..

[tenacious-snail.livejournal.com]

um, I think you're missing a good bit of back story here.

[tenacious-snail.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

I didn't know you hadn't gotten care for your shoulder...really, dear, take care of yourself.

And if you need help with kid-wrangling or chores, just call, and I would be happy to come over and pitch in.

*hugs* to you and to Pat

[hot-turkey.livejournal.com]

:-( *hugs*

Take care of yourself....