feeling marginal, again

[jay]

Some visiting friends are in town... they are having a party tonight, to which Pat and I aren't invited, but seemingly most of my local friends (and both other local sweeties) are, and most of them are going. I feel left out and unwanted again, even though Pat and I had our own plans tonight anyway.... (slight pout).

Back to cutting open walls...

Comments

[cyan-blue.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

I wasn't invited directly, btw. Yesterday another guest left a message for the hosts asking if they could bring me - and they still haven't heard back, so I might not be going after all.

Had the invite been issued to me directly, or even with a bit more advance notice, I'd have most definitely been asking if I could bring you along, and Pat as well. I know that doesn't ameliorate the not-having-been-invited-directly thing, but in any case please know that you come readily to mind for me when I think of who I might like to bring along to a party.

[attitude-boy.livejournal.com]

That seems like a healthy reaction: a slight pout and then move on with life. Define the person you wish to be. Do not let your perceptions of others' actions define you. :)

[p3aches.livejournal.com]

Shes not the only person interested in spending time with you.I adore spending time with you when I can. Love and Hugs T

[elissaann.livejournal.com]

I understand that you feel left out because you weren't invited, and I understand that emotional truth can be wildly different from the facts. But I hope you also realize that almost every post you write is either about a party you attended or about something you did with one of your several girlfriends.

[tenacious-snail.livejournal.com]

Since I started dating you after they left town, I had no idea how friendly you might be with them. I know that invites/welcome/exclusion are something important to you, and I understand that. I'm grumpy and hurt, too, hearing about who was at a party last weekend that I wasn't invited to, and the out-of-town-ers that I would have liked to have seen.

*hugs*

thanks for your help this morning. I most definitely wish to include you, and I want you.

[elgecko.livejournal.com]

Ugh. I've had about a week and a half of intermittently feeling that way, for a couple of reasons. It is supremely unpleasant. *hugs* I am glad to count you as a friend.