A strange feeling...

[jay]

A sweetie of mine today sent me an email. "...since you don't like to ask for help, I thought I'd ask for some as a way to generate ideas."

And she posted a question. And received a warm and supportive response, from her friends, who naturally assumed that it was something of concern to her. And there were, in fact, some useful ideas there for me.

It's a strange feeling watching the difference in responses over there, though, compared to the kinds of responses, or lack thereof, over here when I ask for advice. I can't help but wonder how it would have been different if I'd directly posted exactly the same question in my own journal. Some people would not have replied, certainly. Others I feel would have been less likely to offer their comments or help. And there's a nagging feeling that I would have been somehow "made to be wrong" or criticized if I'd opened myself up in exactly the same way.

Still, this was a loving and supportive act on my sweetie's part, even if I feel a bit sheepish... would these people have been as helpful if they'd known?

Comments

[p3aches.livejournal.com]

Lots of folks have said lots of good stuff.My only suggestion is repost the question and see what your results are. What I see you doing in this post is making an effort to accept peoples suggestions from a place of love and caring rather then an attack. Love and hugs T

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Thanks, dear... it seems like a mixed bag, though -- some have said that they would have replied similarly, but several others not at all, here (and one of those had had useful inputs, on the other thread). I don't know if I'll ask directly or continue to work through third-parties in the future.

[dawnd.livejournal.com]

Embrace the power of AND? Occasionally try both approaches, and see how you feel about the results?