Feeling stuck in kind of a rut?
I need to explore or find something different in my life... too much in the past couple of months (outside of work) has been quiet and dull. Lots of time on weekends spent cleaning and repairing and building things at home... granted, there's been a couple of years of deferred maintenance, but I miss going out and doing the occasional frivolous or recreational activity, or seeing friends. Or even doing activities with the kids... it has been three months of much work and little play. And being both the primary earner and able-bodied adult around the house leaves me often sliding into doing more caretaking than I'd wish.
The breaks, for me, have been travel... I'm really looking forward to going to Minneapolis in two weeks for the weekend for my 10th anniversary with Nancy. Or two weeks ago, when I went to DC a day early so I could spend all day Sunday with![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
geekchick before my business Monday morning. Or going to Atlanta on business in December. I've held these out to myself as carrots and motivators... the problem with this is that it then sets my hopes and expectations really high, which can cause me to crash emotionally if everything isn't sparkly and fun when I visit for the weekend. Which in turn places an undue burden on my out-of-town partners and friends and family. They can't, alone, be my escape-valve or the spice in my life.
I'm really not much of a homebody, or happy retreating to a nest. I could be comfortable spending half my time on the road somewhere. And I don't watch DVDs, movies or TV, and rarely read anymore for pleasure, so there's not much to do at home *except* clean, cook or work on household projects. Except playing with the kids or cats? Any suggestions?
The breaks, for me, have been travel... I'm really looking forward to going to Minneapolis in two weeks for the weekend for my 10th anniversary with Nancy. Or two weeks ago, when I went to DC a day early so I could spend all day Sunday with
geekchick before my business Monday morning. Or going to Atlanta on business in December. I've held these out to myself as carrots and motivators... the problem with this is that it then sets my hopes and expectations really high, which can cause me to crash emotionally if everything isn't sparkly and fun when I visit for the weekend. Which in turn places an undue burden on my out-of-town partners and friends and family. They can't, alone, be my escape-valve or the spice in my life. I'm really not much of a homebody, or happy retreating to a nest. I could be comfortable spending half my time on the road somewhere. And I don't watch DVDs, movies or TV, and rarely read anymore for pleasure, so there's not much to do at home *except* clean, cook or work on household projects. Except playing with the kids or cats? Any suggestions?
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Cooking... I used to bake all of our own bread and buns, back in grad school. But in recent years I've stopped, because it messes up the kitchen, and it usually is already messy? By the time I've cleaned the kitchen enough to do baking (or homebrewing), I'm usually tired or edgy to get outside.
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You're right that we've been emphasizing long-term goals (home improvement projects) over short-term ones lately, and I think that at this point we don't need to consider ourselves on a deadline to finish any specific projects, so let's do start looking for more fun things to do with weekend time again. I know that K was in rapture the other week when I took him bird-watching along the shoreline, and you're right, we need to be doing much more of that with the kids than we have lately.
I didn't realize you didn't know of more hiking trails... they're all over the place in our region, and I'd be happy to work with you to find new ones to explore.
And if you want more skating company in your life... I can't do your usual Wednesday nights post-lessons, but am very happy to go twirl on the ice on weekends.