Schrodinger's revenge
Apr. 25th, 2003 08:19 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jayInteresting to note how friends, partners, people-in-general shift during difficult periods... especially noteworthy when there's a sharp difference between gently chiding or supportive one-on-one discussions and a seemingly-harsher line taken by the same folks in public spaces. One senses attempts to play off both sides in a dispute... or perhaps an unwillingness to burn bridges.
Nonetheless, I've certainly noted who my friends have been -- and haven't been, at least not openly -- in this recent flap. Other folks say that they may like me, but they're unwilling to trust me unless I promise to communicate the manner they prefer? Fine, but that statement cuts two ways... my own trust-assessments have certainly been adjusted downward recently for some people, upward for others. The chestnut about difficult times differentiating between true friends and those posing as such has some validity, unfortunately. Likewise the one about Schrodinger's cat... containers have been opened. One way or the other...
Nonetheless, I've certainly noted who my friends have been -- and haven't been, at least not openly -- in this recent flap. Other folks say that they may like me, but they're unwilling to trust me unless I promise to communicate the manner they prefer? Fine, but that statement cuts two ways... my own trust-assessments have certainly been adjusted downward recently for some people, upward for others. The chestnut about difficult times differentiating between true friends and those posing as such has some validity, unfortunately. Likewise the one about Schrodinger's cat... containers have been opened. One way or the other...
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Date: 2003-04-25 09:15 am (UTC)I'm sorry I wasn't there to support you in your time of great stress.
I have a load of stuff on my plate right now, and it is my opinion that a half-assed opinion isn't worth squat when compared to one with the full thought process behind it, especially when it's a heated discussion. That's why I kept out of things--I didn't want to cloud the underlying issues.
I hope things are settling down for you, and that you can find some peace.
Jen
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Date: 2003-04-25 10:00 am (UTC)In any case, I count lack-of-response as neutral, and it neither increases or decreases my trust of that person in the future. The only exception is when someone has first-hand knowledge of something that would support me, or deflect another's accusations, and that person knows of the dispute but refuses to say what they know. That I interpret as indirectly supporting the other side, and a significant negative. But that's not relevant to you... :-).