Schrodinger's revenge

[jay]

Interesting to note how friends, partners, people-in-general shift during difficult periods... especially noteworthy when there's a sharp difference between gently chiding or supportive one-on-one discussions and a seemingly-harsher line taken by the same folks in public spaces. One senses attempts to play off both sides in a dispute... or perhaps an unwillingness to burn bridges.

Nonetheless, I've certainly noted who my friends have been -- and haven't been, at least not openly -- in this recent flap. Other folks say that they may like me, but they're unwilling to trust me unless I promise to communicate the manner they prefer? Fine, but that statement cuts two ways... my own trust-assessments have certainly been adjusted downward recently for some people, upward for others. The chestnut about difficult times differentiating between true friends and those posing as such has some validity, unfortunately. Likewise the one about Schrodinger's cat... containers have been opened. One way or the other...

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Re: Noodle, schmoodle

[serenejournal.livejournal.com]

[About your first point, you had comments enabled for this entry, and it is what I was responding to, but again, it's really fine with me if you delete it.]

Hmmm... my original, apparently button-pushing quote from 4/15 was: "And there's a certain puzzle-solving fun, too... watching to see who, if anyone, on a given group, will actually figure out what I'm trying to say (instead of rushing to knee-jerk reactions or simple interpretations). I suppose that's a bit arrogant, but otherwise I'm easily bored... "

Which I didn't feel was crowing. More like "is anyone actually reading me for content? And will they bother to ask me 'do you really mean X?' if I seem to say something strange?" Granted, this put the communication burden on the reader to notice something awry and ask me, rather that my communicating in advance that I'm being tongue-in-cheek.


I think I can see where you're coming from. I guess if I were you, I would take a break from the practice of expecting others to ask you what you mean, and just say what you mean for a while, even if what you mean is sarcastic and/or humorous. And maybe overexplain for a while. Not forever, but just long enough for people to get a feel for your ability to deal in a caring manner with your peers. But of course I'm not you, much to what I imagine is your delight. :-)