Schrodinger's revenge

[jay]

Interesting to note how friends, partners, people-in-general shift during difficult periods... especially noteworthy when there's a sharp difference between gently chiding or supportive one-on-one discussions and a seemingly-harsher line taken by the same folks in public spaces. One senses attempts to play off both sides in a dispute... or perhaps an unwillingness to burn bridges.

Nonetheless, I've certainly noted who my friends have been -- and haven't been, at least not openly -- in this recent flap. Other folks say that they may like me, but they're unwilling to trust me unless I promise to communicate the manner they prefer? Fine, but that statement cuts two ways... my own trust-assessments have certainly been adjusted downward recently for some people, upward for others. The chestnut about difficult times differentiating between true friends and those posing as such has some validity, unfortunately. Likewise the one about Schrodinger's cat... containers have been opened. One way or the other...

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[7patches.livejournal.com]

attempts to play off both sides in a dispute... or perhaps an unwillingness to burn bridges.

I don't think those are necessarily bad things, especially of one is not directly involved in the dispute, wants to understand everybody's point of view, and wants to stay friends with everybody.
Of course, friendship can only continue if there is trust, and that is a fragile thing.