Day at home

[jay]

Strep hasn't knocked me down -- no fever or other symptoms -- but I felt not-right this morning, enough that I stayed home from work to try to pre-empt the bug. A telecon including hopeforyou (who was also offsite at her place) went well. Later, bad news about the air traffic project I presented in DC last week... the local NASA management group that has been putting together a new program for FY05, and using us as its poster-child for marketing purposes, is now going to reduce our part of the budget to ten percent of the total while warping our purpose into being basically just computing infrastructure support for things in which they're more interested.

Otherwise, I fixed a door closer and a balky lock, rested, and took Kevin to the park and tried to throw toy boomerangs with him. We were laughable. That's perfectly OK. ;-)

This evening, I talked with patgreene, including a lively discussion regarding whether women actually ever wanted sex for its own sake, or just went along with it in order to gain things that they valued more (like cuddling, or attention, or building emotional ties). There was no verdict... maybe more in a future post.

Comments

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

I want it for its own sake, as well as an affirmation of bonds.

Is there any difference in your choice of partners for either? FWP vs. ongoing partners, say?

I'm often physically attracted myself to various individuals, sometimes intensely, but honoring that bodyhunger is just not possible or sensible for me.

a woman who does otherwise is often vilified as wanton and dangerous.
I don't think that such a woman is dangerous, only unusual. ;-)

[trinker.livejournal.com]

As I said earlier, I don't know that such women are really so unusual, so much as quashed by their surrounding cultures.

I've done "I wanna, you wanna, let's" before. At the moment, I don't have space in my life for that. But I get bodyhunger even while I'm getting affection and other affirmations. Does that make sense to you, as an explanation?

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Hmm... back to a nature vs. nurture debate? If they're quashed by their surrounding culture, there's no way for a third-party observer to differentiate that from an inherent lack of interest.

And I think that you're saying that the bodyhunger aspect for you functions separately from other affirmations. Parallel, not dependent.