Day at home

[jay]

Strep hasn't knocked me down -- no fever or other symptoms -- but I felt not-right this morning, enough that I stayed home from work to try to pre-empt the bug. A telecon including hopeforyou (who was also offsite at her place) went well. Later, bad news about the air traffic project I presented in DC last week... the local NASA management group that has been putting together a new program for FY05, and using us as its poster-child for marketing purposes, is now going to reduce our part of the budget to ten percent of the total while warping our purpose into being basically just computing infrastructure support for things in which they're more interested.

Otherwise, I fixed a door closer and a balky lock, rested, and took Kevin to the park and tried to throw toy boomerangs with him. We were laughable. That's perfectly OK. ;-)

This evening, I talked with patgreene, including a lively discussion regarding whether women actually ever wanted sex for its own sake, or just went along with it in order to gain things that they valued more (like cuddling, or attention, or building emotional ties). There was no verdict... maybe more in a future post.

Comments

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

desire sex just as much and as often as a man does, but is less inclined to ACT

Ah. But as a man, and without telepathy, women's internal motivations aren't apparent. All I see is a reluctance to act, unless other favorable conditions exist, which in turn implies a linkage and relative priority.

the same is true of men

Agreed, I think that's a good analysis of at least one dynamic behind love-them-and-leave-them or tom-cattery (no connection to dot_cattiness ;).

other times, no less frequent, when you're just plain downright horny

That's a hard thing for me to imagine, frankly... it must be subtle, or well-hidden.

[oceansedge.livejournal.com]

I'm not sure subtle or well hidden, just manifested differently. A woman is less apt to discuss her state of horniness in mixed company. Just as men have their locker-room talk. So do women. Being a heterosexual man you're probably more exposed to the former rather than the later. For some reason homosexual men seem to get included in this intimate girlfriend's talk. LOL I remember vividly having this really wild chat with a gay friend online one day about who umm sucked better cock. (/TMI).

I think perhaps, women are less inclined to share this publically than men, in part as someone mentioned earlier, the societal perception that a woman in heat is wanton, a harlot, etc. Much the same as I'm loathe to walk into a bar for a cold one alone, I'll gladly go with girlfriends but a woman in a bar alone is still percieved to be 'on the hunt'.

Its not that women don't have the same urges, they simply express them differently, or more accurately in different, less open circumstances than men, in large part because of the still very deeply ingrained societal differences in perception of men and women's sexuality and the pressures on them thereof.

This is not alas a disadvantage only to women, but to men too. A man is free to admit publically his baser needs. But I don't know many men who have friendships close enough, or secure enough with other men that they feel they can admit their needs for emotional comfort, cuddling, and nurturing.

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Hmm... I don't know about the locker-room talk equivalent. Personally, I was (and am) still mistrustful of my own gender, and avoided all-male social groupings. But I wouldn't admit in a group of men my needs for emotional comfort, granted...