Day at home
Jun. 10th, 2003 11:31 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jayStrep hasn't knocked me down -- no fever or other symptoms -- but I felt not-right this morning, enough that I stayed home from work to try to pre-empt the bug. A telecon including hopeforyou (who was also offsite at her place) went well. Later, bad news about the air traffic project I presented in DC last week... the local NASA management group that has been putting together a new program for FY05, and using us as its poster-child for marketing purposes, is now going to reduce our part of the budget to ten percent of the total while warping our purpose into being basically just computing infrastructure support for things in which they're more interested.
Otherwise, I fixed a door closer and a balky lock, rested, and took Kevin to the park and tried to throw toy boomerangs with him. We were laughable. That's perfectly OK. ;-)
This evening, I talked withpatgreene, including a lively discussion regarding whether women actually ever wanted sex for its own sake, or just went along with it in order to gain things that they valued more (like cuddling, or attention, or building emotional ties). There was no verdict... maybe more in a future post.
hopeforyou (who was also offsite at her place) went well. Later, bad news about the air traffic project I presented in DC last week... the local NASA management group that has been putting together a new program for FY05, and using us as its poster-child for marketing purposes, is now going to reduce our part of the budget to ten percent of the total while warping our purpose into being basically just computing infrastructure support for things in which they're more interested. Otherwise, I fixed a door closer and a balky lock, rested, and took Kevin to the park and tried to throw toy boomerangs with him. We were laughable. That's perfectly OK. ;-)
This evening, I talked with
patgreene, including a lively discussion regarding whether women actually ever wanted sex for its own sake, or just went along with it in order to gain things that they valued more (like cuddling, or attention, or building emotional ties). There was no verdict... maybe more in a future post.
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Mad Weasel Sex
Date: 2003-06-12 01:01 pm (UTC)I found LDRs stimulated the intensity of my desire when we were able to meet in person, myself. And my partner's clear avid desire for me was (and is!) flattering, and stimulates my reciprocal desire, creating a wonderful feedback loop.
On the other hand, I've never doubted for one half a second that my partner has good brakes -- I've never felt that I needed to protect myself from unwelcome touch. And I've never doubted that I'm wanted for far more than my body -- that my partners' desire for me is based in my whole self, body mind and spirit.
: ) Of course, it helps that I can sometimes get the same reaction to a really good theological point that I do to an inviting hip sway... : ) That tends to lend weight to the "I love you for your mind, too!" claim.
But -- given that basic level of respect, admiration, desire, and love -- a little loss of self-control can be really, really nice : )
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Date: 2003-06-13 12:15 am (UTC)I don't disagree regarding effects -- but the need to re-connect, renegotiate, simply relax around an LDR sweetie pushes back any action (regardless of the intensity of my desire ;). And long pauses between meetings can take the edge from ardor.
a really good theological point
*swoon* I want to talk to you sometime, myself ;-)