Pardon my whinging, here... but if I had a social life, I doubt I'd be on LJ at 9:30pm on a summer Saturday night. Nothing to do otherwise, other than (as suggested by patgreene) fold laundry. Sigh.
I make my own plans, for example, the two week road trip I just took with a friend while 98 stayed home.
I try to make sure my sweetie is taken care of and he understands my wanderlust but does not share it. He makes his own plans for the time I am away as well. Most of the time is works out, but not always. This last trip I took was right after another one that was for 'business' and the house was torn apart from redoing my office and he had a bit of a hard time. Gosh, I felt awful and wished I had arranged more help for him but hindsight is 20/20. Things seem to be getting back to normal and he has bounced back.
I've seen you post about this before. I'm not quite clear on why you don't have a fall back position for these situations, like a reading a book, or grabbing a video, etc. Maybe I am misunderstanding something. You seem to plan so well for contingencies in your professional life and most of your personal life execpt time alone at home.
Sometimes I wish the workweek were longer... there, I feel in charge of myself, competent, capable and I have a track record of accomplishments. At home, I'm often sitting on my hands... when I'm not doing housework or home-improvement (like the kitchen renovation last month). Home/social planning is my lowest priority, after work plans and obligations to others ( school projects with the kids, helping friends) so it often never gets done.
reading a book, or grabbing a video
I suppose I should... I've essentially stopped reading fiction over the past few years, and I only go to movies as a social experience. I'd be quite happy if our TV went kaput. Most forms of solitary home entertainment seem like timesinks, with little gain...
The ability to spend time by one's self relaxing is quite a useful one. Very good for one's mind/body/spirit. You might want to consider cultivating it. Just an idea. It took me quite a while to gain that and it has been well worth it.YMMV
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Date: 2003-08-17 06:32 am (UTC)I try to make sure my sweetie is taken care of and he understands my wanderlust but does not share it. He makes his own plans for the time I am away as well. Most of the time is works out, but not always. This last trip I took was right after another one that was for 'business' and the house was torn apart from redoing my office and he had a bit of a hard time. Gosh, I felt awful and wished I had arranged more help for him but hindsight is 20/20. Things seem to be getting back to normal and he has bounced back.
I've seen you post about this before. I'm not quite clear on why you don't have a fall back position for these situations, like a reading a book, or grabbing a video, etc. Maybe I am misunderstanding something. You seem to plan so well for contingencies in your professional life and most of your personal life execpt time alone at home.
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Date: 2003-08-17 02:52 pm (UTC)reading a book, or grabbing a video
I suppose I should... I've essentially stopped reading fiction over the past few years, and I only go to movies as a social experience. I'd be quite happy if our TV went kaput. Most forms of solitary home entertainment seem like timesinks, with little gain...
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Date: 2003-08-17 03:51 pm (UTC)