Pardon my whinging, here... but if I had a social life, I doubt I'd be on LJ at 9:30pm on a summer Saturday night. Nothing to do otherwise, other than (as suggested by patgreene) fold laundry. Sigh.
Like what does one do if one partner likes to cocoon at home, while the other would prefer to go dancing or to a party? Consistently?
Around here, one compromises. Sometimes the partner who'd rather go out frequently goes out by themselves or with someone else, sometimes they stay home and spend an evening with the partner who'd rather not go out. And sometimes the partner who generally stays home compromises and goes out for an evening.
That's what happens here, mostly. Although it requires much negotiation... there are activities and events that I'd like that I don't even bring up -- because they aren't worth the negotiation overhead. Or my potentially having to pass up something more interesting two weeks later because it's then my turn to compromise. Self-censorship, of a sort... and picking the right mood and time to suggest some activity is critical, IMO.
One of the hardest things for me, lately, is that I'm tired in the evening, and even if I can drive to something, I'm often too tired to drive home. So as often as not these days, I don't go to a social event unless I have a reliable ride home, especially if it's deyo or joedecker -- but that too is very much my problem. It's not either of their jobs to be my chauffeur.
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Date: 2003-08-17 07:42 am (UTC)Around here, one compromises. Sometimes the partner who'd rather go out frequently goes out by themselves or with someone else, sometimes they stay home and spend an evening with the partner who'd rather not go out. And sometimes the partner who generally stays home compromises and goes out for an evening.
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