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[jay]

Back home with David and Kevin... the latter insisted on hitting one more street after his too-tired older brother went home. James and a friend are still out there, somewhere.

I spent the day mostly hanging out with hopeforyou at work... a staff meeting, more discussions, then quiet writing, then a late lunch, then a marsh walk, then more office stuff. She's much better than even a couple of weeks ago... on Wednesday, she was her old self again, back leading a technical meeting.

Tonight... put the kids to bed, then probably nothing. patgreene doesn't want to go out, but also wants me nearby, so... here I'll stay. Even though my beautiful student intern, SD, earlier today offered me a ticket to a midnight horror movie showing at Camera 7. But I'm neither a movie buff or a slasher fan. Back to checking candy for tampering...

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[who-is-she.livejournal.com]

oh.... look out for beautiful student interns.
how young IS she?

what ever happened to MY suggestion (you asked, the poll remember?)
about you guys dressing up in drag? I thought that would be the perfect
combination of halloween and intimacy building activities.....
:)

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

It might've worked, although our respective sizes are far different... but right now we're just glaring at each other :-(.

[who-is-she.livejournal.com]

glaring?
oh.
bummer.

have you guys tried:

saturday night live
jug wine
midnight walks
pillow fights
truce

any combination of the above?
sorry to hear there's glaring going on.
go snuggle her, dude.!!!!

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the ideas!

Miscommunication, expectations, and just different needs have struck once again... and she's gone to bed. Time to stare at the walls...

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

SD is pale, tall, 24, has red dreadlocks and nostril and lip piercings... used to work for Sun before she went back to college.

[who-is-she.livejournal.com]

Well, dude,
I don't know what "Sun" is....
but
1) 24
and
2) works for/with you (?)
add up to :

"warning Will Robinson"!!!!!!

I know, you were just talking about a scary movie... but still......
;)

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I couldn't ethically go out with her... I think she has a crush, and that'd just make it worse, and I can't do anything with a direct-report. She's just divorced, too...

[who-is-she.livejournal.com]

She's also on the rebound???

ACK!

YOu made a good choice not going to the movie with her tonite.
:)
even so, you can enjoy the fact that this person is crushed out. It's flattering to have someone crushed out.. as long as it stays a crush.
:)

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Flattering, but I don't quite know what to do with it. I've almost-never been in this position (crush-target) before.

[who-is-she.livejournal.com]

She works with/for you. Hmm.
You can be her mentor.
You can enjoy having her admire you and be crushed out.
You can keep realy good healthy boundaries.
:)

Can you enjoy it, just as it is, nothing more?

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Hmmm... my tendency is embrace-it-or-end-it, rather than living in an incomplete state. When the shoe's on the other foot, if someone appears to be wavering in their feelings towards me, I'll often do or say something to cause them to decide, one way or another.

So I'm likely to ignore/discourage her crush, since I can't do anything about it otherwise...

[who-is-she.livejournal.com]

I think ignoring it is ok.
and channneling the energy into an appropriate sort of attention,
like giving her encouragement about her career/research/profession,
is good.
letting her know by your actions that getting too social with her outside of work isnt' going to happen is probably good, and continuing to keep
your affirmations/attentions focused on her work abilities also seems to be the thing.

do you feel the need to discuss the crush overtly?
IF she brings it up overtly.. Iguess then you have to tell her
that her admiration is flattering, but that you need to stay focused with her on work related relations.