SO's on LJ?

[jay]

My primary, Pat, now has her own LJ page (see patgreene). This should be interesting... will there be entries that we don't want the other to see (say, venting about the other)? Should we be on each others' friends list? I'd be interested if anyone reading this has experience/advice... this is my first SO that has had an LJ account. Although she seems a bit unsure about the medium, so far...

Comments

[rosefox]

I would certainly say you should be on each other's friends lists. I would also say that yes, there will probably be things you don't want each other to read, and that there's nothing wrong with that. Venting where the people you're venting about can't see or hear it can be exceedingly useful, as long as you use it as a tool to organize your thoughts and bring it up more calmly to those people later. If you find yourself wanting to keep a lot of secrets, that's an important thing to know, too.

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Hmm. I would infer from that suggestion that venting is OK if done eyes-only, as a completely personal (no friend access) entry. Then later, after thoughts are better organized, the semi-rant can be re-written and re-posted. That would make sense...