Heading home...
Jan. 3rd, 2004 11:30 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jayBusily packing now, leaving for the airport in an hour, landing around 8pm at SFO. I've been wondering if my email is broken... large numbers of email queries are going without replies. We will just get a taxi or something from the airport home...
Perhaps indicative is that nearly all of the unanswered email this week (not just about rides, but in general) was addressed to various members of a given local social circle, in varying contexts... sigh. I suppose I should have expected as much, given some interactions last week.
Perhaps indicative is that nearly all of the unanswered email this week (not just about rides, but in general) was addressed to various members of a given local social circle, in varying contexts... sigh. I suppose I should have expected as much, given some interactions last week.
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Mea Culpa, and apologies for the tone (part 2)
Date: 2004-01-04 08:28 pm (UTC)It was the accumulation of such posts/expressions, in various fora, over time, INCLUDING spring/summer that had me wondering. I'm sorry if I seemed to ignore hard-fought progress on your part. I didn't mean to belittle your efforts, and I'm sorry it came across that way.
FWIW, it wasn't simply posts in YOUR journal to which I referred however--it was stuff I saw in other journals, in other media, and some of the interactions that I heard about (yes, my bad for going--even partially!--on hearsay) in recent weeks. So while there isn't much of this in YOUR journal per se, there is more there in a general way, and it was to that I referred.
"I suppose I should have feared as much, given some interactions last week" is better
Well... better, but still missing the point to some degree. The issue is the word "should." Why SHOULD you have feared that? There's still an expectation lurking in there. To eliminate that expectation, you might try reframing it as:
"Given that most of the unanswered mail is from a particular household, I'm afraid that this communication breakdown might be due to some interactions we had in the past week."
That's all about your fear in this case, and contains no expectation of rejection. (Have I communicated this clearly? Let me know if I'm still being unclear here.) IMO you really don't need to even jump to that FEAR, but at least in that version you aren't EXPECTING to be treated poorly.
OK, the lovely
Re: Mea Culpa, and apologies for the tone (part 2)
Date: 2004-01-05 01:01 pm (UTC)Actually, given your choice of adjectives used, in a public post in my journal... it was beginning to feel to me like one of those interactions last spring/summer with certain unnamed others.
When I'm self-deprecatory in my journal, I'm almost never looking for sympathy, or "there-there" responses. It perplexes me when readers feel obliged to jump in to dispute some passing self-humbling remark. I'm only expressing how I feel at that particular moment, not requesting that others take some action (or pay attention). And getting it off of my chest, by putting those negative feelings into words, often helps me begin feeling better. Maybe I should think to disable comments... although some of the self-deprecation is done unconsciously.
yes, my bad for going--even partially!--on hearsay
Why... posting an emotional public response to something based in part on unsubstantiated information from elsewhere... sounds like something I'd do! (wink)
And the unanswered mail was from a group, not a single household... but you're right, getting rid of "should" improves it further.