Maybe I just don't understand the D/s dynamic in play scenes... but after a scene is over, wouldn't the players just go their separate ways? Why would the D-player care about the s-player's well-being, ten minutes after their session (transaction?) is completed?
Because the Dom in this case was her boyfriend. Scenes can and often do exist in a much larger context of affection. I think that's the best parallel to your situation, too: with friends, with people who care about you in the larger long-term context, you still do things to damage yourself for their short-term pleasure, and then wonder why they're long-term annoyed or upset.
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Date: 2004-04-24 11:24 pm (UTC)Because the Dom in this case was her boyfriend. Scenes can and often do exist in a much larger context of affection. I think that's the best parallel to your situation, too: with friends, with people who care about you in the larger long-term context, you still do things to damage yourself for their short-term pleasure, and then wonder why they're long-term annoyed or upset.