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Jun. 20th, 2004 08:18 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jayThe difference between Father's Day and Mother's Day... on Mother's Day, I slept late after a party the night before, skipped church and then took patgreene out with the kids. On Father's Day, I'm up early getting the kids breakfast and dressed and cleaning the kitchen while Pat sleeps in... the kids don't even know what today is. Still, I need to be balanced, not seeking appreciation or external validation. I don't need anyone. Time to reload the dishwasher... I can't get in the shower because James came home from his sleepover and grabbed it first.
patgreene out with the kids. On Father's Day, I'm up early getting the kids breakfast and dressed and cleaning the kitchen while Pat sleeps in... the kids don't even know what today is. Still, I need to be balanced, not seeking appreciation or external validation. I don't need anyone. Time to reload the dishwasher... I can't get in the shower because James came home from his sleepover and grabbed it first.
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Date: 2004-06-20 04:31 pm (UTC)I need to be balanced, not seeking appreciation or external validation.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to be appreciated once in a while.
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Date: 2004-06-20 04:56 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-06-20 06:05 pm (UTC)It could be worse. You could be pulling down a twenty-year-old wall in your house, the way my mom did on her birthday once. *g*
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Date: 2004-06-20 09:41 pm (UTC)Okay. I give. I've got to know.
What happened there???
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Date: 2004-06-20 06:46 pm (UTC)-JEM
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Date: 2004-06-21 02:17 am (UTC)And no one asked you to clean the kitchen, either.
OK, fine... consider it even, then.
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Date: 2004-06-20 07:40 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-06-20 07:40 pm (UTC)And isn't it just an invention of the card companies anyway? Mothering Sunday had a real meaning, in the days of service when it was the only day when the servants were allowed home to visit their families (though US Mothers' day is the wrong date), but I don't think Father's day had any previous existence before it became a marketing excuse.
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Date: 2004-06-20 08:07 pm (UTC)It becomes a reminder of my relative place in the household, I think... on the former, the kids made pancakes (using too many strawberries) and brought their mother breakfast in bed with hand-made cards. On the latter, I'm up trying to get them fed and dressed and they're having tantrums and throwing toys... I suppose it is natural for them to be closer to their mother, but this dynamic only reinforces the feeling of being there to support them.
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Date: 2004-06-20 08:15 pm (UTC)You should let your children know what today is if you haven't, and make it known what you would like.
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Date: 2004-06-20 09:43 pm (UTC)*hugs*
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Date: 2004-06-21 01:29 am (UTC)Really, things were already stressed before today... this was just one more thing.