never mind...

[jay]

The difference between Father's Day and Mother's Day... on Mother's Day, I slept late after a party the night before, skipped church and then took patgreene out with the kids. On Father's Day, I'm up early getting the kids breakfast and dressed and cleaning the kitchen while Pat sleeps in... the kids don't even know what today is. Still, I need to be balanced, not seeking appreciation or external validation. I don't need anyone. Time to reload the dishwasher... I can't get in the shower because James came home from his sleepover and grabbed it first.

Comments

[treacle-well.livejournal.com]

You know, one possible reason for Pat and the kids not knowing what day it is or not caring about doing something special may be because they don't know that you do care. Maybe they figure there's not much sense in making the effort if say, they think, you'd rather be at work or something. If it's tough for you to let the kids know directly that you would like Father's Day to be a special day, then maybe you could let Pat know and ask her to take on the responsibility of making sure the kids know, and giving them reminders about it when it comes up, and that sort of thing.

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

One difference between the two days is that Mother's Day comes during the school year... teachers, most of them themselves mothers, make sure that the kids in their classes know about the date and typically pursue hands-on art projects during the previous week. Father's Day in June is after school is out, hence no focus.

Really, things were already stressed before today... this was just one more thing.