disengagement?

[jay]

To withdraw from some local communities and circles, or not... that question seems pressing, right now. It could be self-defeating. But better to walk away than to stand around on various peripheries, feeling excluded and unwanted. Whining and fuming is unattractive and internally unhealthy, in the longer term. I suppose that I have to assess the likelihood of future non-peripheral participation vs. the emotional risks of waiting...

Comments

[vokzal.livejournal.com]

Maybe these communities are no good to begin with. Or maybe it is just your self-perception. Or maybe you should take someone with you. (We should meet up again!)

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

For most people in them, I'm sure they're fine. But I'm not in the middle of any of them... and I'm tired of being peripheral and feeling left out, and at the same time don't see how I can change my relative position.

Lots of people came to my birthday party, for example, but won't make time for lunch with me -- outside the motivation of their *other* friends being present.

And we should definitely meet up again, hopefully before I go off to more field work in Spain next month...