jay: (contemplative)
jay ([personal profile] jay) wrote2004-10-22 08:37 am

Outside the village...

I'm frankly envious of parents with community support... for example, [personal profile] dawnd and [personal profile] akienm are able to find a series of sitters for Allegra so that they could go to a weekend workshop in LA. Without having to, say, fly in Dawn's mother from back East... it's great for them, and I think they'll add a lot to that workshop. But I know that I couldn't do the same thing, and that Pat and I are pretty much on our own as far as child-raising goes... no net, here. When crises have hit, my only option has been to fly in one or the other grandmothers for a while, and/or take vacation time and stay home as well.

Still, that's a natural consequence of not being a part of any particular community, other than sort of tolerated on the fringes... I have only myself to reproach, arguably, for not giving enough or conforming sufficiently.

[identity profile] bdot.livejournal.com 2004-10-23 01:14 am (UTC)(link)
(IOW, Jay, I know you *like* to feel like an outsider, but this example isn't holding up to my analysis)

LOL... is that what it is? now i understand things a bit better!!!!

[identity profile] brian1789.livejournal.com 2004-10-23 01:41 am (UTC)(link)
Um, no.