Outside the village...

[jay]

I'm frankly envious of parents with community support... for example, dawnd and akienm are able to find a series of sitters for Allegra so that they could go to a weekend workshop in LA. Without having to, say, fly in Dawn's mother from back East... it's great for them, and I think they'll add a lot to that workshop. But I know that I couldn't do the same thing, and that Pat and I are pretty much on our own as far as child-raising goes... no net, here. When crises have hit, my only option has been to fly in one or the other grandmothers for a while, and/or take vacation time and stay home as well.

Still, that's a natural consequence of not being a part of any particular community, other than sort of tolerated on the fringes... I have only myself to reproach, arguably, for not giving enough or conforming sufficiently.

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One of the many fears I have...

[samtosha.livejournal.com]

regarding if and or when we move is that I will be away from my support group of chosen family and biological family. When I moved here, I only knew my parents and in 8 years I have manifested and created an amazing chosen family. I know that I will be able to do it the next place we move, it just scares me. You are not alone in how you feel.

Re: One of the many fears I have...

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Exactly. Trapeze-swinging without a safety net, or at least one stashed elsewhere (that you hope can be dragged over in time if you ever really need it).