Out of place

[jay]

Last night I dropped by a "poly for introverts" discussion group... put on by the same folks as the pool party last week. Officially I was there to retrieve the bathing suit and electric razor left behind at the party, but I wanted to socialize a bit while I had an opportunity. It felt rather out of place, and not just because I tend to score "E" on Myers-Briggs. The folks there seemed really concerned with issues regarding how to meet people, flirting techniques, and successful dates set up as a result. One participant talked about his past habits of "collecting" women... ick.

These aren't things that I generally do, and I inadvertently kicked over a proverbial beehive of discussion when I said that I hadn't ever picked up anyone, and couldn't imagine doing so. That, and saying that in my experience women conversely very rarely tried to pick up men, and I hadn't ever observed any trying to do so with either myself or guys in my immediate vicinity. That led to several women discussing their experiences in pursuit of random men and women (and a funny lesbian-flirting story ;-). As well as redhawke humorously (but frivolously... (giggle)) trying to turn the tables on me by claiming that he had seen several women approach me at past events. If that had happened, I would have noticed... (grin). I may be talented and bright, but a babe-magnet I am not... nor strive to be.

The folks there seemed to be putting together a 2-hour workshop that could be given to groups of shy/introverted (not the same thing) participants... yesterday was a planning meeting or overview. I may consider going back to sit through the workshop, if only for the sake of perspective.

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You're kidding, right?

[hopeforyou.livejournal.com]

. That, and saying that in my experience women conversely very rarely tried to pick up men, and I hadn't ever observed any trying to do so with either myself or guys in my immediate vicinity.

I mean, you haven't watched me in action? I flirt with men (and women on occasion, too) and try to pick them up all the time. Sometimes I succeed quite well. Sometimes I don't. Oh well...

Anyway, the funniest story behind this is that sinboy was supposed to be a one-night stand. Yep. Ask him about it; it's true. How he ended up being a partner of over 11 years is a long amusing story...but yeah, I have been flirting with and trying to pick up people for ages. =)

Re: You're kidding, right?

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

I flirt with men (and women on occasion, too) and try to pick them up all the time

Hmmm... true, I've watched you flirting with various folks at a distance, on a couple of occasions, but I've never noticed you making a serious pass at someone. At least not at someone that wasn't already at least an um-friend or sweetie of yours, or no one in my vicinity...

Actually, you were one of the handful of counter-examples I thought about, since you flirt often enough and openly enough that some episodes might contain Intent, so to speak...

that <http://img.livejournal.com/userinfo.gif> sinboy was supposed to be a one-night stand

Heh! That's amusing... rather ironic. I guess that it shows that some casual relationships can spring roots... I'd like to hear that story.

BTW, who picked-up whom, back then? (grin)