cleaner, this way

[jay]

patgreene has a slight tear in her posterior cruciate ligament, and a slight tear in another left knee ligament, but neither will require surgery.

She is hobbling around, now... could use a cane, is in pain, but can now drive for short periods. And then we will have survived this latest crisis without any outside help at all...

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[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Dependence ==> loss of control -->vulnerability --> likelihood of getting hurt. Anything that requires dependence on others, on a personal level, is dangerous and unreliable.

[As an aside, this is why I usually make a lousy team member, work-wise -- I do much better as either a project leader or a lone-wolf researcher.]

Asking for *anything* for myself is a bad idea and to be avoided as much as possible. Not depending on others to defend their boundaries, but rather to pre-emptively defend them for those others (by staying far back from the boundaries).

And specifically, I acknowledge that several offers of help have been reiterated... I'm referring them to Pat at this point, so I don't have to be involved in that loop. Figuring that if she hadn't trashed her knee, I wouldn't be in this position anyway...

To survive, I have to be able to carry on without any love or support, because one never knows when those things will disappear.

[cyan-blue.livejournal.com]

I think it's better to taste love for a while, even though it might go away, then to live forever without it. Lots in life is transient, but we are richer for relishing what's there while we can.

[geekchick]

I'm referring them to Pat at this point, so I don't have to be involved in that loop. Figuring that if she hadn't trashed her knee, I wouldn't be in this position anyway...

*facepalm* I'm reasonably sure that Pat's unhappy enough about being in pain and incapacitated already, I'd guess that comments like this one that make it sound like you blame her for inconveniencing you are likely to help anything.

To survive, I have to be able to carry on without any love or support, because one never knows when those things will disappear.

If you actively work to push those things away though, you end up with a much better idea of when they'll disappear. From what I've seen, you've got a lot of generous and caring friends locally who would be happy to give you love and support if you'd just let them from time to time.