Notches vs. casual partners

[jay]

In earlier journal discussions, some argument has occurred around the use of the term "notch" as denoting a lack of significance as a partner. To me, "notch" equals someone pursued solely based on desire, with no intention of further contact or a relationship afterward. With slightly-predatory overtones... leaving afterward with only a fond memory (hopefully) to take forward into the future.

But, again, having never done anything like that myself, one can probably safely ignore my opinions as uninformed ;-). So here's a poll to see how other folks define the term:

[Poll #55900]

I don't intend to get on a high-horse here, I'm not criticizing those who have casual sex or notches or whatever in their own past. I claim no virtue... no one has ever made that kind of advance towards me, and no one was interested in that way early on in my 20s when I was young and attractive. Were circumstances different.... who knows what I would have done. So no judgments, either way, I want to know what you really think...

Comments

Ok...

[greeklady.livejournal.com]

So like everyone is being terribly pc. I am sorry, going to call a spade a spade and be the evil man out...er woman out.

I had a "non committed sexual encounter" with someone and damned if as soon as he got me into bed, I was never called again. I definately felt like the "notch". I almost thought,... hey I am a bad lover. Which of course is untrue. Since said person was making noises as to seeing me again. But in the mean time was fucking everyone from here to the other coast.

I have no fond memories, I do feel used by this. Mike says I should act like it is a notch in my belt but I just can't feel that way. I don't want to have a check list of people. Oh and yes, there are people like that whether they want to admit it or not... they make it sound all new agey and lovey dovey... but you know what... it really translates to ... how many people can I lay before I die. It just has soft edges to it and a nice rosey glow.