V-Day blues

[jay]

And it isn't just because my paper is late... I generally dread today, and am usually left feeling inadequate, bereft, or both. Gestures are confused, dinners are disastrous, and I always forget something or someone. All for a commercially-manipulated holiday... sigh.

Comments

[boubabe.livejournal.com]

Well, my V-day has passed me by, and I'm feeling all of the above angst. This was not a day that I enjoyed. Doesn't help it that in Japan, its only girls who are suppose to give chocolate to boys so I was surrounded by most of my male colleagues getting a bounty of gifts from my female students (my school has about 80% female students).

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Only females giving tokens to males? Hmmm... I wonder how that originated, since it's a Western holiday in the first place? Too bad you didn't get any recognition, yourself... I sympathize (hug). That's usually my role over here...

[lavendargrrl.livejournal.com]

Ohhhhhhhhh...I'm sorry you're feeling that way...is there anyway for you to sit down and maybe write your love/loves a sincere letter? I don't know your romantic or relationship habits, but a sincere letter from a love's heart is genuinely romantic and makes a wonderful keepsake...it also allows some time and space to edit and hopefully make an authentic presentation...and cuts down on the commercialism too...I hope your Vday experience is better this year than in the past....

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

That's a thought... it's too late for a handwritten note, but there's still e-mail.

[dawnd.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

*hugs* back :-)

V day blues.

[p3aches.livejournal.com]

Brian,
Vday is a tough time. Big hugs. You are sincere in your loving and that is the best valintine any person could ever get.T

Re: V day blues.

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Awww... (blush). In any case, you're pretty forthright about your own affections, so that's a compliment coming from you. :-)

[patgreene.livejournal.com]

*smooch*

And having an SO that continually forgets V-Day doesn't help either. Sorry.

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

That's okay, love... you show your affections in many other ways. Like letting me sleep in this morning after I was up until 3am working on the paper.

[griffen.livejournal.com]

*hugs* If I were there, I'd come and sweep you off your feet, and I wouldn't use chocolate, either. *grins*

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

A long-handled pushbroom, instead? *)

[griffen.livejournal.com]

I was thinking a gift of some really good beer, myself. Something imported.

*grins*

[mactavish.livejournal.com]

Are your loved ones people who need an observation or recognition of Valentine's Day? It might help to sort those to whom it matters from those who couldn't give less of a whit.

[patgreene.livejournal.com]

Speaking solely for myself, Valentine's Day is just another day -- except that I have to get two recalcitrant children to sign cards for all their classmates. (Fortunately, now that J is in middle school, he doesn't do that any more.) I am happy if someone sends me something, but I neither expect it nor am upset if they don't. I am just as happy if someone sends me flowers on St. Swithin's Day, for that matter.

And for the record, brian1789 gave me one of the best Valentine's Day presents I ever had: three years ago, he gave me hand-made chocolates. Some of my friends were quite envious.... "You mean, he made you chocolate truffles? Oooohhh....."

[mactavish.livejournal.com]

Valentine's Day is just another day -- except that I have to get two recalcitrant children to sign cards for all their classmates . . . this is one of the traditions that's strongly discouraged me from having any deep feeling for Valentine's Day.

[geekchick]

For myself, I don't need it; I think it's a good excuse to do things for my loved ones (although I don't feel I *have* to do anything on this one particular day), but I have no expectation that anyone will do anything for me. I'm pleasantly surprised if they do, but I'm not upset if they don't either. I'd rather hear little indications year-round that I'm cared for than get one grand gesture on a Hallmark holiday. =)

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Actually, that's very close to how I feel about the day, as far as receiving attention goes...

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

I think that it is more of an internal critic than external... my sweeties may be happy enough, but I'm likely to judge myself as falling short of the effort that they each and collectively deserve...

[cjsmith.livejournal.com]

I am sooooo glad I'm out of town this V-Day. (Just about to leave for the airport, in fact.) Yay!

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

(nods) that sounds curiously attractive, likewise... have a good trip.

[geekchick]

I generally dread today, and am usually left feeling inadequate, bereft, or both.

Love you. *smooch*

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

*smooch* love you too, adorableness...