Baker House redux
Apr. 12th, 2003 02:56 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jay| I scored 65 ¾% on the classic 400 Point Purity Test! |
| Take the test here! |
Given that most of my friends are in the 30s-50s, I suppose that this is yet another measure of how I'm unsuited for their company, out of their collective league, &c...
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unrequested advice
Date: 2003-04-12 03:02 pm (UTC)First: The purity test really isn't valid.
Second: Of my friends who've taken tests, the scores range from in the 30s to in the 70s. The results mean nothing in terms of who's in who's league. They're just for fun. It's like me saying, "Wow,
Third: Affirmations can be negative, too. If you're affirming that you're socially unacceptable, it will continue to sink into your gut even deeper, and social situations just might become more awkward for you. It might be time to get back to your Lenten practice. Try to find good things in situations (you *were* social last night! quietly so, but you were) and write about them, too. Give them the weight they deserve!
Re: unrequested advice
Date: 2003-04-12 05:46 pm (UTC)There were positive aspects of last night -- it wasn't a disaster, just not much fun. I was glad to see you and
Social unacceptability isn't inherent for me, it may just be that I'm unacceptable in the poly community. Too geeky, too much of an ingenue, too suburban-with-kids, too inexperienced, too clueless.
And
An unrequested observation
Date: 2003-04-13 12:55 am (UTC)An observation on this, if I might:
The purity test not only reflects past life experiences...it reflects personal interest in some of the things that are asked about (specifically the substance use bits, and some of the sexual bits reflect interest as well as experience).
In many purity tests, I score abnormally high because there is a heavy weighting on some areas that I simply will always be pure in, largely because I have no interest in ever losing some of those purity points (I'm not into necrophilia, for example, and never will be).
My score on this one? 33.3%...but there's a lot less weighting on the drugs and such, and a lot more weighting on the sorts of things I did when I was a sexually-frustrated teenager.
I think a high score is not necessarily a reflection on either your past experiences or your desireability (other than to those for whom depurifying a person is an end into and of itself. ;) ).
And, above all...it's for fun, and remarkably subjective. :)
Re: An unrequested observation
Date: 2003-04-13 12:05 pm (UTC)granted... and while there are many things listed in which I have no interest (hard drugs, scat, necrophilia, etc.) there's certainly interest on my part in the sexual areas. I simply never sowed any wild oats, proverbially, either as a teenager or later... nose-to-the-grindstone, 80-hour week-after-week in grad school, being "responsible" and "mature" as a teen or 20-something.
When I was a sexually-frustrated teenager, I did my best to follow the advice I was given and deny and control those impulses, aided by being generally-unattractive and a social outcast. So I feel like an invisible wall separates me from those friends who have (or had) a wilder side. Sort of a different angle on squandering one's youth, I guess...
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Date: 2003-04-13 08:44 am (UTC)Actually, Noel's got a livejournal. I just can't remember what username it's under.
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