Baker House redux

[jay]

I scored 65 ¾% on the classic 400 Point Purity Test!

Take the test here!

Given that most of my friends are in the 30s-50s, I suppose that this is yet another measure of how I'm unsuited for their company, out of their collective league, &c...

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HUH?

[greeklady.livejournal.com]

OH for F***s Sake Brian!!

I suppose that this is yet another measure of how I'm unsuited for their company, out of their collective league, &c...


You keep saying this in your journal on the poly list... keep saying it and it will not only change this untrue fact to become FACT but also reinforce and make everyone believe you are completely unsuited to sit at the same table as them because you haven't been fucked backwards, while riding a camel down a deck of a boat blindfolded in the middle of the day! If you want to get invited to a sex party then ask the host of one to invite you. Then you can be just like everyone else. There is something to be said by being different. Seriously. If you don't want to wait for a sex party take your wife or one of your lovers the next time you are in town and go to the swingers club in San Jose and just have sex with them. That way you are at a 'sex' party yet being safe.

I don't know anymore what you are asking for when you post things like this. Do you want people to ignore you and let you vent? Do you secretly hope someone reading your journal will get a veiled hint and cuddle with you at a gathering? Are you wanting sympathy? Empathy? Or are you just that insecure that you think you are so different but you really aren't because you have a wife and several LDR's? You told me yourself you weren't into closer relationships because you don't think it would work out. I guess I am not sure how to react or act for that matter to posts with comments like this.

I don't know if it makes any sort of difference to you but I had and have found you very attractive. Mentally and sexually. I contstantly wonder where you come from in the mind set when you post things like this. Who you are measuring against if you are. Or who you want to be accepted by. I just don't understand.

Re: HUH?

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Then you can be just like everyone else

Is that (going to sex parties) the difference? To me it seemed like a set of differences accumulated over a decade or so, not simply that I hadn't gone to, say, Black Sheets.

go to the swingers club in San Jose and just have sex with them

A certain degree of exhibitionism is fun, but none of my partners are into that (anymore...). Besides, that place closed down a couple of months ago, another friend is dating the former owner.

I don't know anymore what you are asking for when you post things like this.

Not asking for anything... making a comment on past decisions I've made, and how I'm often out-of-synch with those around me. Self-critically, I suppose, but I'm not looking for sympathy. It's the sort of thing that I'd ordinarily mutter quietly to myself, except that occasionally I write down in my journal what I'm muttering or thinking to myself.

You told me yourself you weren't into closer relationships because you don't think it would work out.

Kind of, sideways... I really don't know how to date anyone locally, my relationships have been patgreene or LDRs, with one constrained exception.

I had and have found you very attractive. Mentally and sexually.
(goggle) um... thanks! I'm not unused to people complimenting my mind, but someone admitting to physical attraction has almost never happened. I had no idea.

Re: HUH?

[vokzal.livejournal.com]

>> I don't know anymore what you are asking for when you post things like this.

> Not asking for anything... making a comment on past decisions I've made, and how I'm often out-of-synch with those around me. Self-critically, I suppose, but I'm not looking for sympathy.

I think she put things rather nicely. If you really want to lower your score some, tell us what parts you want to lower!

Out-of-synch? Come on! You've got to be kidding! If you're poly with kids, that sounds like a pretty responsible alternative adult life. You have more relationship experience then some of the most recent people I've dated. So you probably have some idea of how to communicate. Especially if these are LDRs and you try to stay close. Because that is /hard/. (Especially if you're the first person your partner has dated AND you live +9 time zones apart...)

Having said that, in a way LDRs are easy to keep up if they're below a certain level of Serious. Especially while poly.

FWIW, I scored 48¾ and I don't have or plan on getting the drug stuff. Still need location points... This test seemed big on animals for some reason. This test says very little about actual useful relationship experience. I don't see on there questions asking if you've ever been in an abusive relationship, or if you've been pressured into ignoring hard/soft boundaries (nonconsensual might be too strong...).

Having sex with a virgin is easy. Drawing someone shy out and getting to know them is hard.

Oh, and don't underestimate the power of geek fetish.

Re: HUH?

[greeklady.livejournal.com]

Self-critically, I suppose, but I'm not looking for sympathy. It's the sort of thing that I'd ordinarily mutter quietly to myself, except that occasionally I write down in my journal what I'm muttering or thinking to myself.


But this isn't something you have been muttering to yourself though. You have posted it to the poly list and on your journal several times. Either way I am still curious as to why you keep repeating this self depreciating language. Like I mentioned before... keep saying it and it will come true.
Being out of sync isn't the same as not being good enough to be hanging within a certain group. And apparently they don't perceive you as being that out of sync since they are still associating with you and inviting you out to places.

Anyway, just my thought on it.