As an aside

[jay]

If getting laid was a priority of mine, I wouldn't dare to voice public opinions that I know might alienate some potential (or even current) partners...

If you're wondering what I'm talking about, it isn't worth your time...

Comments

[serenejournal.livejournal.com]

True. Nor can anyone accuse you of going out of your way to make sure that the things you say in public aren't actively unkind to people you love. Hon, you can do as you please, and those who like the way you do things will always be the ones who surround you, or at least that's the way I find life to work. It's just that if I discover that something I do makes fewer cool people want to be around me, sometimes I re-examine that. It's all about desired results and perceived effort, I think. Or something. </musing>

[patgreene.livejournal.com]

those who like the way you do things will always be the ones who surround you,

Or at least those who like you for other reasons and are willing to -- however reluctantly -- put up with the way you do some things.

And this is true love

[vokzal.livejournal.com]

...That is, having full knowledge of the faults of another person and still being madly in love with them. Said faults might annoy you, but you accept them.

Incidentally, I'm not sure about exactly what brian is trying to say.

p.s. I'll be at the Linux WE thing in SF.

Re: And this is true love

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

You're right, and I don't deserve her love, but I accept it. And am awed by it, at times...

the Linux WE thing in SF
huh?

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Have I told you lately that I love you? :-)

[serenejournal.livejournal.com]

*nod*

[firecat]

I have a few relationships that resemble that remark. (I expect my loved ones feel the same about me.)

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

None of us are perfect ;-). But flaunting one's imperfections isn't necessarily a good way to make friends and influence people...

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

(nods) sometimes I'm motivated more by self-protection and can't see the effects on those around me. Defense, even when I feel I have to say things or do things in my own defense that will make others uncomfortable. Or may even hurt them, in retrospect. The more threatened or uncomfortable I feel, the more challenged, the more likely I am to say or do something and damn-the-torpedoes, defiantly.

Sort of like catching negativity from others in a bucket and then throwing it back out the window... problem is that it doesn't necessarily splash on those from whom it was originally received. Attempts to "correct" my behavior by bullying or name-calling then simply fill the buckets faster... leading to the opposite of the nominally-desired effect. It can spiral.