As an aside

[jay]

If getting laid was a priority of mine, I wouldn't dare to voice public opinions that I know might alienate some potential (or even current) partners...

If you're wondering what I'm talking about, it isn't worth your time...

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[brian1789.livejournal.com]

(nods) sometimes I'm motivated more by self-protection and can't see the effects on those around me. Defense, even when I feel I have to say things or do things in my own defense that will make others uncomfortable. Or may even hurt them, in retrospect. The more threatened or uncomfortable I feel, the more challenged, the more likely I am to say or do something and damn-the-torpedoes, defiantly.

Sort of like catching negativity from others in a bucket and then throwing it back out the window... problem is that it doesn't necessarily splash on those from whom it was originally received. Attempts to "correct" my behavior by bullying or name-calling then simply fill the buckets faster... leading to the opposite of the nominally-desired effect. It can spiral.