Less than 48 hours

[jay]

Until an event that is typically more stressful than an annual performance evaluation... a local poly pool party with 50-100 attendees. Lacking a local date, I've almost always gone alone... and sometimes foundered, without a safety-person there for emotional support. This time, there will also be a few people there that are likely to quietly mock me, whom I'll be avoiding. If it weren't the largest local community event, and I wasn't also starved for higher-energy social space, I might skip it. But I won't... wish me luck.

Comments

[purpletigron.livejournal.com]

Hey - I really wish I could come along with you!

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

(grin) I really wish that I could hang out with you sometime, whether here or there! Not planning any Spanish holidays next month, perchance?

[purpletigron.livejournal.com]

Sadly, no... although I'm currently reading about Catalonian food and have a yen to visit and try some!

Surely you can summon up a business trip to the UK some time - visit Prof Pillinger at the OU or something? :-)

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

(pause)
Hmm... I'm scheduled to get weekends off, (e.g. 10-12 October) and there are Seville-Heathrow fares for around $138... how long does it take to get from LHR to your area?

Not the moral dilemma that people might expect! :-)

[purpletigron.livejournal.com]

Urm! To get from Heathrow to us by public transport is quickest on express bus (as you have to change trains, I believe), and would take about 3 hours with a bus every hour during the day. Driving yourself would take slight less, both modulo traffic of course.

What an audacious suggestion! (Spain's a long way from England by European standards, as you know) My delay in replying isn't so much shock and awe (!) as having lost this thread temporarily, however :-) I have to admit that you've - completely sweetly and unintentionally - caused me a moral dilemma, though - I've got this 'thing' about irresponsible burning of fossil fuels, so help me! :-)

It would be really lovely to see you! Are you sure you can't come up with a legitimate business reason to be in the UK?!

[who-is-she.livejournal.com]

Good luck!
I think you will do fine. With a 100 poeple there... you can gravitate toward those with good vibes toward you.

If I were there.. I'd hang out with you!
It is kind of hard to go to those huge group throng events without a companion. I admire your courage. It's not easy.

And remember this: anyone who is there 'quietly mocking you', is really not worthy of much of your time or energy. If that's the most interesting thing they have to do at a party.. then they need to re-evaluate their social priorities, get a hobby, something.
;)
and... don't let your imagination go too wild on that idea. I bet most people will just be there to have fun......
enjoy.

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Thanks! I feel like I'm a bit better-prepared emotionally nowadays than I was a couple of years ago. And floating alone and lonely among throngs is less likely than it once was, I think. But I'm still reluctant to approach strangers and introduce myself, I'll be arriving halfway through the party and I'll be arriving and leaving alone...

If I were there.. I'd hang out with you!

Awww... thanks. The one time we were introduced in person, you were the co-hostess of this party, so I'm honored. Although you'd be, um, busy if you were actually at a party down here, I suspect.

don't let your imagination go too wild on that idea

If I'm lucky, that group and I won't interact and will scarcely notice each other.

[serenejournal.livejournal.com]

Luck!

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Thanks :-).

[grynz.livejournal.com]

Well I can't imagine anyone being so callow as to mock another's wounds... I don't know if this makes you feel at all better, but M and I are planning on being there.

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Great! I'll look forward to seeing you there.

As far as mocking goes... several of the dot_cattiness folks will be there.

[sinboy.livejournal.com]

FYI, as far as I know the_ogre is still not welcome.

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

According to what others have told me, he and 7patches are going contra dancing. OTOH, rmjwell is likely to be there, with his friends. Last weekend, I was actually worried about encountering you, likewise ;-).

[7patches.livejournal.com]

The Ogre was never told this.
At present no one is banned from the event, as publicly stated by the host.

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

I believe that you're right... I haven't heard of anyone being banned from the event.

Huh.

[vokzal.livejournal.com]

That kinda sounds like fun. I'm probably not on the right mailing lists to get invited to stuff like that.

Good luck! Just avoid known snarkys.

Re: Huh.

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

It has its own mailing list, which itself is publicly announced on several poly lists... I'll forward a link.

upcomming event.

[p3aches.livejournal.com]

Brian, part of the reason I decided to fly down insteade of drive was so I could be at the PPP. I need some hugs and cuddles. and you do that really well.Please dont skip it. Hugs T

Re: upcomming event.

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

You flatter me ;-). But any hugs and cuddles that you'd like from me are yours... I'll be there.