From my organizer page...

[jay]

"A first failure may prepare the way for future success." --Arnold Lobel

I know this to be true in science, and to some extent in engineering and business. I wonder how applicable it is in relationships, though... I've read some accounts that if one isn't successful in making a connection (of whatever sort) initially, the likelihood of future success falls off dramatically. Or does it?

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[trinker.livejournal.com]

I remember the first meeting with someone I'm madly in love with as "eh, yeah", and a pleasant conversation, but no thought to doing anything else. And apparently it was mutual.

Second meeting, years later, was much, much different.

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

What changed? Did either of you consciously leverage anything that you'd learned from the first meeting?

[trinker.livejournal.com]

I think we were different people. Or at least, I was. Drastically.

I wasn't *trying* to do anything with this person. (I don't think this person was trying to do anything with me, either.)

Generally, I would say that the difference was in my attitude towards life, and how I felt about myself.