disengagement?

[jay]

To withdraw from some local communities and circles, or not... that question seems pressing, right now. It could be self-defeating. But better to walk away than to stand around on various peripheries, feeling excluded and unwanted. Whining and fuming is unattractive and internally unhealthy, in the longer term. I suppose that I have to assess the likelihood of future non-peripheral participation vs. the emotional risks of waiting...

Comments

[mhw.livejournal.com]

Saying "I'm feeling somewhat isolated" isn't whining. You shouldn't have to fume - just express how you're feeling; very often people will have had no idea how you've felt, and change their behaviour to you when they do know.

*hugs*s

[dawnd.livejournal.com]

I'd recommend against withdrawing, but of course it's up to you. I think you'd just be feeding the negative cycle. The problem, as always, is that you don't think you're worth being around. You're wrong, but no one outside of you will ever be able to convince you otherwise. It must come from within.

[weirdodragoncat.livejournal.com]

I don't even know you that well and I think you're a worthwhile person. Please don't withdraw from the community.

[vokzal.livejournal.com]

Maybe these communities are no good to begin with. Or maybe it is just your self-perception. Or maybe you should take someone with you. (We should meet up again!)