return to therapy

[jay]

After a one-month absence. A 2.5-hour session... <lj user = "patgreene> was just back from her trip and faded. Room for cautious optimism... we pretty much have figured out what's underlying the repeated upsets between Pat and I, and have a general agreement on a direction to proceed. It will require both Pat and I to look out for each other's interest as well as our own, and to reach consensus rather than just deciding things unilaterally. Otherwise... a bit to my surprise, I discovered that much of my crankiness and feelings of worthlessness and depression appear to be tied to the sexual abuse meme, and feelings raised back to the surface by my reply to my parents a couple of days ago. I've needed help over the past couple of days, but have been afraid to ask for it.

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[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Thanks. We still have a lot of work to do in the details, and shaping that into some kind of relationship agreement. But it was very good to be able to identify the underlying problem... not just over recent months, but over years and several relationship cycles. An insight that (incidentally) came to Pat suddenly while I was on Devon.