*crash*

[jay]

Well, my generally-good mood lately had to end sometime... in this case, I managed to have both my jealousy and exclusion buttons pressed in a 5-minute period at the beginning of a gathering, and I spent most of the rest of the evening away by myself sulking (and dozing) outdoors. Sigh. My issues, and not constructive. patgreene actually thought I was upset at her... not so.

The gathering itself was overcrowded, and I had to sit out in the hallway... feeling peripheral and unimportant and unwanted. Getting there sooner would have helped, but we had to feed our kids and it is a long drive...

Time to pack now, I have a 5am pickup....

Comments

Re: Choice

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

But I *did* choose... since I couldn't clearly hear what was going on, or make eye contact with most of the other attendees, I left. Other than to return periodically and glance in to see if things had changed, or grab one of patgreene's brownies.

Re: Choice

[p3aches.livejournal.com]

Brian,
Given your comments about feeling unwanted and excluded, your choice to to leave and periodically check back does not seemed to have served you. So I'm wondering how you might choose not to stay excluded next time. At support group when someone comes and is outside the circle, an example of how the person gets their 100% about being/feeling included is by asking "is there anyone in the circle willing to double up?". On many occassions this is a suggestion made by the person facilitating the support group as well.

I've been to discussion groups at HW and I've often seen people double up, as long as somebody asked.

I'm not trying to chastise you for your choice, just trying to give you an example of another way to have chosen, and to possibly have gotten closer to your 100%.

Lots of hugs,
T

Re: Choice

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Hmmm... what do you mean by "double up"? I can imagine 2-on-1 in an exercise, but not two on a single-seat chair or floor pillow...