Notches vs. casual partners

[jay]

In earlier journal discussions, some argument has occurred around the use of the term "notch" as denoting a lack of significance as a partner. To me, "notch" equals someone pursued solely based on desire, with no intention of further contact or a relationship afterward. With slightly-predatory overtones... leaving afterward with only a fond memory (hopefully) to take forward into the future.

But, again, having never done anything like that myself, one can probably safely ignore my opinions as uninformed ;-). So here's a poll to see how other folks define the term:

[Poll #55900]

I don't intend to get on a high-horse here, I'm not criticizing those who have casual sex or notches or whatever in their own past. I claim no virtue... no one has ever made that kind of advance towards me, and no one was interested in that way early on in my 20s when I was young and attractive. Were circumstances different.... who knows what I would have done. So no judgments, either way, I want to know what you really think...

Comments

Re: Notches

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Hm.... I tend to think of casual sex as being sex between strangers, with no a priori intention of becoming otherwise. The sort of thing that might happen with a businessperson picked up in a bar for one night, in a swing club or dungeon, or at the larger sort of "those kinds of parties"...

If my casual sex definition is close to others' "anonymous sex", then my "notch" is closer to "collect the desirable stranger/acquaintance"...

And ego issues cover a broader swathe... shucks, I don't pursue that kind of sport, so to speak, but I still feel more valuable (and amazed ;-) when someone wants to be sexual with me.

And data gathering and new techniques are useful and worthwhile, granted...