As an aside

[jay]

If getting laid was a priority of mine, I wouldn't dare to voice public opinions that I know might alienate some potential (or even current) partners...

If you're wondering what I'm talking about, it isn't worth your time...

Comments

Re: Happiness is a choice

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Now I'm guessing this reflects your view of yourself

Admittedly, the tone was a bit patronizing, sorry. It actually reflected my frustration over an ongoing thread over on polyamory which was consuming hours and hours of my time to no particular benefit. I didn't think it was worth explaining that context from zero, for those readers who had luckily missed that discussion, as my thesis didn't require it.

Granted, every person can consciously choose their reaction... I'm saying that (a) I'm not particularly tactful, (b) I say things without bothering to filter them to cast me in the best-possible light, and (c) sex hasn't been a personal priority in my life. Others have commented to the effect that sometimes I go too far, casting myself intentionally negatively and causing collateral hurts to those close to me. That may not lead to alienation, per se... some people have chosen otherwise, or I wouldn't have any friends or partners left.

Re: Happiness is a choice

[raddy.livejournal.com]

I haven't read anything in that community, and don't know you more than a bit. But from what little I've noticed, the casting myself intentionally negatively sounds about right. My suspicion is it is part of a larger pattern of beating yourself up, but then again I could just be projecting myself onto my perception of you.