Which is cuddlier?
Jan. 31st, 2003 12:06 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
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What about approaching pretty girls seems tantamount to facing polar bears ?
Pretty girls (so to speak) can rip me to shreds figuratively, polar bears literally.
Pretty girls size me up as a prospective dinner companion; polar bears as a prospective dinner. I pick up the check in either case.
After encountering a pretty girl or a polar bear, afterward I'm usually licking my wounds.
Both can turn up unexpectedly, when I'm not mentally or physically prepared. Vigilance helps avoid embarrassment or worse.
After a pretty-girl encounter, usually my confidence is shaken and I'm awash in self-doubt. After encountering polar bears, my confidence is boosted and I feel capable and strong -- assuming I've survived.
I've only seen three unclothed polar bears in the wild, about the same number as the total number of unclothed pretty girls I've seen up close ;-). Submerged doesn't count in either case.
I have more confidence in my ability to handle adeptly the former than the latter.
During a encounter, I'm generally trying to discourage the bear and scare it away. But an attractive woman is generally trying to discourage me and send me elsewhere, instead...
What about approaching pretty girls seems tantamount to facing polar bears ?
Pretty girls (so to speak) can rip me to shreds figuratively, polar bears literally.
Pretty girls size me up as a prospective dinner companion; polar bears as a prospective dinner. I pick up the check in either case.
After encountering a pretty girl or a polar bear, afterward I'm usually licking my wounds.
Both can turn up unexpectedly, when I'm not mentally or physically prepared. Vigilance helps avoid embarrassment or worse.
After a pretty-girl encounter, usually my confidence is shaken and I'm awash in self-doubt. After encountering polar bears, my confidence is boosted and I feel capable and strong -- assuming I've survived.
I've only seen three unclothed polar bears in the wild, about the same number as the total number of unclothed pretty girls I've seen up close ;-). Submerged doesn't count in either case.
I have more confidence in my ability to handle adeptly the former than the latter.
During a encounter, I'm generally trying to discourage the bear and scare it away. But an attractive woman is generally trying to discourage me and send me elsewhere, instead...
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Date: 2003-01-31 01:50 am (UTC)Doesn't sound like it is anything objectively associated with the female, in that case :-)
Fear of rejection... I know that my self-image is too bound up in the ways that others respond to me, in such crisis situations. In other words, I need to remember that the answer to one particular question does not reveal or determine my whole worth.
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Date: 2003-01-31 07:14 am (UTC)Exactly. Which itself may take seconds-to-months depending on the circumstances and chemistry ;-)
the answer to one particular question does not reveal or determine my whole worth
Hmmm... no, it doesn't. But it is a momentary evaluation, of sorts... it reveals a small piece of my worth, in the eyes of that given person at that instant. If I sum (actually, integrate) enough evaluation-function-pieces, I start to approach a worth-estimate. The integral over time resembles a kind of social desirability function which I can track...