Which is cuddlier?

[jay]

Brought up by a comment from here .

What about approaching pretty girls seems tantamount to facing polar bears ?

Pretty girls (so to speak) can rip me to shreds figuratively, polar bears literally.

Pretty girls size me up as a prospective dinner companion; polar bears as a prospective dinner. I pick up the check in either case.

After encountering a pretty girl or a polar bear, afterward I'm usually licking my wounds.

Both can turn up unexpectedly, when I'm not mentally or physically prepared. Vigilance helps avoid embarrassment or worse.

After a pretty-girl encounter, usually my confidence is shaken and I'm awash in self-doubt. After encountering polar bears, my confidence is boosted and I feel capable and strong -- assuming I've survived.

I've only seen three unclothed polar bears in the wild, about the same number as the total number of unclothed pretty girls I've seen up close ;-). Submerged doesn't count in either case.

I have more confidence in my ability to handle adeptly the former than the latter.

During a encounter, I'm generally trying to discourage the bear and scare it away. But an attractive woman is generally trying to discourage me and send me elsewhere, instead...

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[hopeforyou.livejournal.com]

I've only seen three unclothed polar bears in the wild, about the same number as the total number of unclothed pretty girls I've seen ;-).

Duuuudddde! Where have you been?!? I've seen more than 3 at any given pool party. You must not have been looking closely enough...

[boubabe.livejournal.com]

Okay, so what's a "pretty girl" and how do you tell a naked "pretty girl" apart from a naked "polar bear?"

[luvlyrita.livejournal.com]

i'm just going to take this opportunity
to remind your audience that.....
brian is hopelessly adorable

awwwwwww........;)

[patgreene.livejournal.com]

I've only seen three unclothed polar bears in the wild, about the same number as the total number of unclothed pretty girls I've seen up close ;-). Submerged doesn't count in either case.


So how many clothed polar bears have you seen in the wild? : >

[dawnd.livejournal.com]

During a encounter, I'm generally trying to discourage the bear and scare it away. But an attractive woman is generally trying to discourage me and send me elsewhere, instead...

I think this is the core of your problem, Brian. Your underlying assumption is that the woman doesn't want to be with you, pretty much at all, under any circumstances. I think that is a false assumption, and one that is negatively self-fulfilling. If you think that about her, you are going to be uncomfortable and awkward, which will send HER the message that she's making you uncomfortable and awkard, which is not a recipe for a continued smooth interaction.

Exercise for you: In an encounter with a "pretty girl" in the next week or so, preferably someone that you are only SLIGHTLY interested in (to lower the stakes for you), enter the conversation holding the thought in your mind "I am interesting and an attractive person; people--including pretty girls--WANT to talk to me." Periodically remind yourself of this throughout the conversation. See what happens. I'm betting that the encounter will be much more comfortable for both of you.

See, the fact of the matter is, Brian, you ARE an interesting and attractive person. The more I read about you in this context, the more interesting things I discover. On-line, your discomfort pretty much disappears, and the real you can shine through. I'd love to see you able to show that to the rest of the world, all the time. I think that would be fabulous for everyone, yourself most of all.