an observation

[jay]

From a comment of mine in another journal... my own internal model still equates expression-of-interest = sexual-harrassment, not something I'd easily do. Presumed harmful to the other person until/unless proven otherwise. Consequently, in my life I've only set that model aside and made the first move once... the rest of the time, I've typically waited for the other person(s) to take that risk, or else mutually tip-toed laterally towards each other over the course of months.

Comments

[trinker.livejournal.com]

What's your definition of sexual harrassment?

[kai-ta-loipa.livejournal.com]

I've typically waited for the other person(s) to take that risk

So if someone comes on to you not knowing if you'll like it, it's okay, but if you do the same, it's sexual harassment?

I would opt for risk, personally. The sting of rejection is overall less damaging than the pangs of uncertainty.